Why we are here.
THE REAL STORY of MY MOTHER and ME.
This is MY take:
A mother daughter, father son relationship can look very different when feelings are involved and perspectives are taken in consideration. Kids often feel neglected or may feel treated unfairly. It's a commonality of growing up. It can be also unfortunate when all the while parents hopefully do their best. When it's just you and me kid against the world, there is bound to be a cause for air.. Teri did have her faults- she was an alcoholic and that always has a deep profound impact on a kid. That I cannot address nor is it anyone's business. I know personally of my own situation. My dad drank too and our family suffered as a result. I was beaten, demeaned and felt lost and alone. The difference with Brooke and her mom is that Brooke always felt loved, always felt first and that created a strong sense of self. When you are in a close family relationship your view can be slighted. This is my experience with Teri Shields.
Mrs. Shields was my guardian angel. She cared, cared too much and sacrificed her life for the life of Brooke's. She never remarried. And in the end she died alone from complications of dementia. She didn't deserve that as she had given so much. Teri gave Brooke to the world, helped this kid writing to you now grow into a man, and Mrs. Shields should be remembered for all the good she had done. In the end, Brooke couldn't have become a finer person. In the end Teri was magical- to me personally.
Mrs. Shields is no longer in the position of ensuring all those around her are ok, or that she has to be nice to everyone. Nope, not at all. I think Brooke even stretches that a little to actually be unkind to those whom invade her personal space. But, that too is warranted- we're in a crazy world and one can never be too sure... Despite the fame and constant attention, Brooke's greatest role is a mom. Her kids too have a normal upbringing- from selling lemonade to trick or treating.. there is Brooke Shields, and then there is just Brooke. Teri would be proud- I'm sure Brooke is too. After all she had a good teacher.
Teri Shields was many things. Strong willed, over-protective, and quite often provocative. Teri saw in Brooke what we all do- one of the most beautiful faces there ever was. Teri used that to succeed- she had little else, for Brooke and for herself. Teri had married into a rather wealthy family when she married Brooke's father Frank. After being married for only a short time Teri and Frank divorced. However, Teri had wanted for Brooke the life she was born into having/ the life of privilege being born into a tennis great and Italian Royalty. Unfortunately the marriage failed and Teri's independence and drive led her to the only world she knew. As a former model herself, Teri saw not only what could be, but what should be. A lot had happened in that long illustrious controversial career of Brooke's. From her Ivory Snow ad at a mere 11months to her most recent efforts in stage and screen, Brooke has the life Teri wanted her to have- including the social status in her most earliest days of friends and family in the Hampton’s.
Teri was a survivor, and did not want a life of poverty for Brooke. They struggled like any single mother would but created their own luck. Preparation meets fate they say, but one look into those eyes there clearly wasn't any other path to take than what they had.
It's no secret there was a lot of resentment from Brooke, and I don't intend to speculate. But, I'll tell you this. The letters that were answered and the phone calls made to a particular kid a grave risk were also not known to Brooke. The reason I know this is because I've had several opportunities to talk to Brooke about this. Brooke had no idea.- much like I can imagine a lot of the 'business' side of things. Brooke is soon to be 50 next year and in 50 years of celebrity, there hasn't been another example better than Brooke. Brooke is very much a lady- yes she posed provocatively for Calvin and wrecked me and the rest of the world in the process, and yes some unsuitable movie roles... but everyone knows one needs credibility to decline movie roles and roles are few and far between. Brooke's provocation was her work and it was left at the door. Teri made sure Brooke was a normal as could be. 50 years later, Teri had the knowledge and skill for giving us The 80's Look, helped Calvin sell his jeans 300+ %, all the while being the ultimate role model. Teri Shields was my angel and I'm forever grateful. She was Brooke's too.
Many have commented and criticized Teri for managerial skills, but no one can deny her maternal skills. Brooke went to a normal high-school, did normal things from cheer-leading to riding her beloved horses. Teri’s maternal skills far outweighed her survival skills as I am here to prove it. I was a broken little boy whom she took it upon herself to makes sure I was properly cared for. And in Teri’s spirit and my obligation to pay-it forward, this 1214/ December 14 in honor of the Sandy Hook Elementary School victims we will be launching a national campaign that #STOPBullyingSTOPSchoolViolence on the second anniversary. We understand that bullying is the biggest instigator in this pandemic of school shootings, and we believe if we can get every student to sign a contract to be kind and to promise NOT to bully we will not have an 88 school shooting since Sandy Hook.
As a 12 y/o little boy I was abused by a neighbor 38yrs to my junior. I obviously didn't understand rape, let alone it being by a man, so to say the least I did not bode well. I became a self isolated kid who eventually spent the year in and out of the hospital as I suffered deep emotionally. I had seen Blue Lagoon, and the only way I was to survive was that I had to dream- I too was on that Blue Lagoon and played some Risky Business. After a failed suicide attempt I began to escape into the hollywood dream world, and began to send Brooke Shields messages. It wasn't anything creepy- a basic fan letter. Those letters soon began being answered and eventually I felt safe enough o share my innermost secrets.. Brooke Shields' mother Terri would call 1x or 2x a week after receiving a letter that gave the impression I was being abused. Mrs. Shields would talk to my folks to explain the 'secret' and helped me accept my abuse which allowed me the steps to heal. It seems crazy that in the 80's, that Brooke and her mom would take interest in a broken boy. But, they did. They sensed my pain and wanted to extend themselves to show that people really do care. It saved my life. I spent the next few years speaking treatment. About 15 years later I would befriend an ex salesman from Gucci who were the Shields' go to guy. He laughed saying that Brooke was very conservative and didn't indulge much, but Teri, Terii would order 3pairs of crocodile loafers at a time.. The interesting fact of all this was that I told this guy my story, and that I was alive today because of the kindness of a stranger and shared what Mrs. Shields had done. The salesguy then explained that he remembered Mrs. Shields sharing the same story and needed some advice. Skip ahead to right before my Sophomore year.
It was right before My sophomore year, I was hit by a drunk driver and broke my neckx2 and shattered bother the fibula and tibia. The next full year was in and out of the hospitals. 12months later I was walking without even a limp and fully healed. To say I defied logic was an understatement. The doctors were beyond shocked as they had told me I would lost my left leg, and that I would most likely be crippled from the neck down. With my new season on life, thankful to be alive, and remembering the kindness of a stranger, I set out to LA. I was 2b the next TomCruise. It wasn't until I did several tv shows, dated HalleBerry, & was up for AFewGoodMen, that I didn't have to be a star to do good. I met Matthew Broderick at a hollywood house party and he shared with me his charity work with YoungArtistsUnited. I asked how I could help, soon joined Matthew and from there I went off onto my own and have lived a life of service. I didn't appreciate my life as a kid because I was broken. Now that I learned the importance of humanity I wanted to help all kids from ever feeling as I had growing up. 1214 December 14 SandyHook/the world experienced one of the most horrific events in history. Within days I had left NY&stayed in Newtown, CT. Representing the town, the families and realizing the importance of combating abuse/violence I am building a 25- 30 million dollar KidsCenter.
I went from trying to end my life every way imaginable to then fighting to keep it. If Teri Shields hadn't cared for a total stranger, I would not be here today. If that kindness wasn't matched with a life changing event I wouldn't have been compelled to a life of service. And with all that we are honoring the victims of SandyHook& paying tribute to all who suffered school violence/shootings. It's a pay it forward.