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EFFECTS OF Hasassment, Assault, Abuse.

29/10/2017

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EFFECTS OF Hasassment, Assault, Abuse.


​This section outlines some of the common effects of sexual assault. Not all survivors of sexual violence are the same, nor will any act of sexual violence affect two people in the same way. This is simply an introduction to help better understand what a survivor may be experiencing.

As an advocate, support person, or someone working with a survivor of sexual assault, helping to identify and normalize these reactions can be important.


Short Term (Acute) Effects
Immediately following an incident (days to weeks), many survivors report feeling:

Shame
Survivors thinking they are bad, wrong, dirty, or permanently flawed.

Guilt
Survivors feeling that the abuse was their fault. It is very difficult for survivors to place the blame on the offender. Often the abuser was a person close to them that they want to protect. Or it may be that by placing the blame on the offender they then feel an utter helplessness in the abuse.

Denial
Survivors saying, "It wasn't that bad." "It only happened once." "I am fine, I don't need anything."MinimizingSurvivors thinking that their abuse was not as bad as someone else's. Minimizing the assault is a coping strategy. Sexual assault counselors should validate the impact of the abuse and that it is appropriate that the survivor is upset, traumatized, or hurting from it.

Boundaries
Survivors can be unfamiliar with boundaries, not knowing when or how to set them or that they have a right to do so. Many survivors need support developing and practicing boundaries.

Trust
Sexual assault is a betrayal of trust. Most survivors find it difficult to trust other people as well as themselves and their own perceptions. On the other hand, they may place an inappropriate level of trust in everyone.

Safety
Often survivors have an unrealistic sense of safety, assess unsafe situations as safe, and perceive safe situations as dangerous. It is important to check whether a survivor is now in a safe environment by asking specific questions: "Is anyone hurting you or asking you to do things you do not want to do?"

Isolation
This is a big issue for adult survivors. Many feel that they do not deserve support, that they are tainted, and that others will not want to be their friends or lovers. Often, survivors from marginalized communities do not want to expose their experiences for fear of bringing further judgment and attack on their community. Many survivors have been shunned from their families and/or communities.

Amnesia
A survivor may not remember what happened. In the long-term, if it happened before the development of language, the survivor may not have a verbal memory.

Dissociation
A survivor may have dissociated during the sexual assault incident(s). They may describe "floating up out of their body" or "looking over their own shoulder" during the abuse. Dissociation can happen even when the survivor is not being assaulted/abused; an event or memory can bring up emotions which trigger dissociation.

Anesthesia
The body is where the sexual abuse took place and many survivors feel betrayed by their bodies in various ways. They may have tried to numb/dissociate from their bodies in order not to experience the feelings brought on by the abuse.

Physical
Survivors may have somatic (body) complaints, eating disturbances, anxiety, difficulty concentrating, and physical symptoms related to areas on their body affected by assault.

Emotional
Survivors may be very expressive (anger, sadness), disoriented (disbelief, denial), or controlled (distant, calm).

Cognitive
Survivors may be unable to block out thoughts of the assault, or alternately forget entire parts of it. They may constantly think about things they should have done differently; emotion and intellect may be conflicted. Nightmares are common. Survivors may also have thoughts of being in a similar situation and "mastering" the traumatic event.

Other related issues that may emerge are eating disorders, sexual difficulties, physical changes, substance abuse, self-harm, suicidality, anger, and mood disorders such as depression and post-traumatic stress.


Long Term Effects
  • Long term reactions include healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms, which may be beneficial (social support) or counterproductive (self-harm, substance abuse, eating disorders).
  • Immediate reactions may persist and change the survivor's lifestyle. This adjustment stage (months or years) may include:
    • continuing anxiety
    • poor health
    • sense of helplessness
    • persistent fear
    • depression
    • mood swings
    • sleep disturbances
    • flashbacks
    • dissociation
    • panic attacks
    • phobias
    • relationship difficulties
    • withdrawal/isolation
    • paranoia
    • localized pain
  • These are normal reactions to a traumatic incident. If we look at these reactions through a "trauma lens" then the reactions make sense but are no longer useful to the healing process.
  • Some survivors may be diagnosed by a mental health professional as having Acute Stress Disorder or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
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MADONNA.  NOT BROOKE SHIELDS

24/10/2017

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Since this has been a personal assault on me.  
I want 2make perfectly clear + OFFER more proof. 

My crush on Brooke SHields was '81-'84.  I did write fan letters, until her mother befriended our family.
AND I grew up-  just as i outgrew my boys size 12slim levis.

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FOR BRUCE WEBBER BY HANS FRAHMEYER

TATTOOS
1. mom. left arm. +
2. rosary. right arm.  for Rob Reiner's A FEW GOOD MEN.
3. MLVC/ MAVERICK upper right  Madonna Louise Veronica Ciccone.  
    'Like A Prayer' CD Artwork by my friend Christopher Ciccone. 
    MAVERICK. Madonna's Company.
4. mer. left arm.  dad.
5. Pices/ Sagitarian middle of my back.  My Dad + Me.
6. Kelly. right arm. Kelly. 
7. Frances. left arm.  Kelly.
8. Anthony.  right forearm.  Anthony.
9. Rowan.  left forearm. 
10. GM.  

NOT BROOKE SHIELDS.

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